To help ease the blow of my son leaving, I try to find a bunch of ways my life may improve while he is out there living his life to the fullest. I am currently wide awake at 5 am on a Saturday morning. I have tried to fall back to sleep, to no avail, and I blame him. He has this new schedule since graduating. He sleeps during the day and stays up until 4 or 5 am. He makes music, talks to his "imaginary friends" via Xbox Live, and does things normal people do at normal hours. Eating cereal is now reserved for after midnight only. He has always been a night owl, but it has gotten extreme now that he does not have to wake up early for school nor does he have interruption of his former job - last week was his last week.
If I am going to be honest, I must say he gets it from his mother. Through my teens, 20s & early 30s, I always performed better very late at night and into the wee hours of the morning. But, things have started to change in my late 30s. I go to sleep earlier. On a good night, I am sleep by 10 pm, but I average 11-11:30 pm. That's good for me. The only reason I am up at 3 & 4 am these days is because I wake up to do my old lady pee. Yep...that's right...my bladder is starting to tell the age that my skin has worked so hard to hide. lol No matter what time I go to bed, I wake up very early every morning to do a bathroom run. SN: He finds it absolutely hilarious that I am starting to have "old lady" moments because I can be very immature at times. I sometimes have the personality and sense of humor of a teenage boy. The pranks and lengths we go to annoy each other can get quite extreme. :-)
Anyway, I see my son's bedroom light on or hear his deep ass voice that carries no matter how low he tries to talk (seriously, this dude is not capable of whispering), and I can't help but to stop by to chit chat with him or find something I need to do. For instance, I told him to take his sheets off his bed earlier because I was going to wash them. I failed to finish washing before dozing off. When I went in his room, his bed was still naked. He has no problem sleeping on a naked mattress because it's his, but I do. So, of course I had to at least throw a fitted sheet on for him so my conscious could be cleared. Now I am up (wide awake) and he is sleeping, peacefully, on his crisp, freshly made bed.
I am a scheduler by nature. I take pleasure in planning out my days, hour by hour. I am not obsessive about sticking to it, but having an outline helps me stay on task. My son's needs (really wants) often trump whatever schedule I have planned. He does not ask for it or expect it, it's just something I do naturally. He often chuckles while saying, "You are such a mother." I take it as a compliment, but I do apologize in advance to his future wife for any damage I may have done. lol It's going to be really interesting to see how well I stick to my schedule when I am not using my son as an excuse. My future schedule has me in bed and sleep by 10 every night. And, when I wake up for my old lady pee, I will have no distractions to keep me from stumbling back to my bed and dozing off immediately. There will be no beds to make, no "do you know what time it is - turn that music down or put on your headphones", no bass voice & laughter, no extra light drawing me in...nothing distracting me from my patiently waiting sheep. Although I am sure I am going to miss all of that terribly, I am going to try to see it as an advantage.
I have decided to start keeping track of the advantages to help me through those rough, I miss my baby days. Excuse me...I know he is 6 feet tall with a slight goatee, but he will always be baby...ALWAYS! Back to what I was saying - I will keep track so I can look back here to remind me of the advantages of having my days (and nights) to myself. Advantage #1: More sleep!
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